False advertisement:The return policy

We are often searching for the things that we desire in the absolutely wrong places. But then we have the temerity to complain about the results or the product we end up with. We go to the drug store when we want to lose weight, we stop at the convenience store for dog food, and so on. To that end, we continue the charade by not realizing that our desire for a quick fix, for convenience often costs us more in the end. To further perpetuate our bad choices, if we go to the drug store and buy a product and the product does not work as it was advertised, we spare no cost in returning it and demanding a refund or replacement. However, when we go to the strip club and find a mate, male or female, and they are not who they purport to be, we hold onto them, accept their inconsistency and fool ourselves into thinking we can change them. Rarely do we ever find ourselves returning that person to the strip club where we found them. So whether you remain in a relationship with this person for 6 days, 6 weeks, or 6 months, the return policy remains the same. Ask yourself this, if you go to the store and purchase an item, bring it home, and then break it or find that it is broken already and you have thrown out the receipt, what do you do with the product? Do you keep it in a closet, going back to check to now again whether it has repaired itself? Of course you do not because you know that this is not possible. However, when we find someone and once we get them home, find out that they are broken, we try and try and try to fix and/or change them. Now, obviously you cannot handle a person exactly like you would a broken object. But the principle is similar. You can hope for the best, but you must realize that a person’s will to change comes from God and their desire to change. You do not have to desert a person to know that they are not necessarily for you. I spent several years in an abusive relationship, not only out of fear, but out of fooling myself that I could change the person. I could not change him, and I could not save him and myself at the same time. But what I could do was pray for both him and me. My prayer for him would be that he was freed from the clutches of whatever demons or circumstances made him the way he was; the prayer for myself was that I was freed of the demons keeping him in my life.

What I am trying to say is that you are not a bad person for deciding to return a something or someone that is not designed for you. But continuing to convince yourself that you can do something that was not in God’s will for you only prolongs receipt of what you sought in the first place.

It is time we claim only what God has placed on the shelves for us. If you are a singer, you would not buy a nail and hammer to complete your purpose. You would purchase what was designed to aid you in progress and not hinder your forward movement. So recognize that the same holds true for relationships and other facets of life. Do not be fooled by false advertisement, not everything is for you.


Author: Downnotout1

Taneshia Brown, a native of New Mexico was born the second child of Howard and Fannie Baker. She was raised by both parents in a loving home with two other sisters. Although as a child she dreamed of becoming a lawyer, life would bring her to another passion – writing. This passion is demonstrated in her first book, “My Journey, His Purpose”. In "My Journey, His Purpose," the author relives both painful and difficult memories to unearth the power of God’s power and purpose. She began writing in high school a part of a post traumatic therapeutic regimen. As a rape victim, single mother, and domestic violence survivor, she fought through the low places in life to acquire several college degrees. She later sharpened her writing skills while blogging for The Examiner, and Jambalaya Magazine. The author has continued to rise from the ashes under the cover of God to volunteer, guest speak, start a non-profit organization, and now write her own memoirs in order to reach and teach others who have found themselves in similar circumstances. Her journey has taken her from a broken, battered, and lost shadow to a fulfilled, renewed woman, wife, mother, and survivor. Her unique voice speaks volumes to tragedy and triumph. Now she is here to blog about life and its intricacies.

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